When we start the day with gratitude and appreciation, have the expectation of joyful conditions, and keep our minds focused on our intentions, the day unfolds before us with a delicious sweetness.
Turning our backs on negativity, refusing to feed into drama, practicing compassion and charity, is a recipe for a magnificent repast.
Fill your day with sweetness. Start with gratitude and watch it snowball.
We are not our past, good or bad. Our history should not define us. We are no more the product of our worst moment than we are the reflection of our greatest accomplishment.
It is not a good idea to be dependent upon the opinion of others to begin with, but it is worse when our view of ourselves is tethered to a moment in time.
The only way to live shrouded by self love,(which is the launching pad for unconditional love of all life) is to live and reflect the person you feel in the present moment.
Every day, each moment in time is a new beginning. We can reinvent ourselves, improve habits and behaviors or revel in the beauty of who we are right now.
This very second is the only life that exists, and our understanding of who we are and how we relate and interact is the only self knowledge that has meaning.
Give up old paradigms, limiting beliefs, and the anchors of the past.
Let go of those grand achievements we are trying to match or surpass.
Be the best you can be in this moment and you are living your best life.
Let go!
For the myriad of people living each day in reaction to conditions they are exposed to, their life is not projecting into form, but the lives of those whose intentions they are addressing.
We compromise our identity when we are not filling our days with experiences of our choosing.
Certainly there are situations we need to address in life, but we do not need to alter our path, disrupt our journey and don the mask of those whose intentions overpower ours and restrict our ability to create from genuine desire.
Don’t go along to get along.
Follow your bliss and live your best life.
When I was younger I had no idea. So many millions do not have a clue. This was probably the wisest thing ever said.
The phrase: “An idle mind is the devils workshop” is very important.
Your mind, our mind, THE MIND, thoughts, emotions, attention, focus, expectation, are the material of existence. The reality we experience is born, designed, developed and unfolds through the mind.
Mind is everything.
We can meditate to remain focused inwardly, we can intentionally focus on our desires, and be a personal creator; or we can take our exposure to external conditions (the minds of others) and lament and ruminate on them.
The latter is to become a puppet and create the intention of forces outside ourselves by proxy, sacrificing authenticity and autonomy.
Mind your mind to live your life.
The saying: “It’s better to give than receive” is so very true. So many of us always feel insecure when we receive gifts or favors. It almost like we don’t believe we deserve the respect and love from others. But no one ever feels poorly about doing or giving to others, the community, or even at work.
Making a difference in the lives of others is cathartic and empowering. Self worth is developed through benevolence and altruism.
Everyone needed to feel needed and worthwhile. He who gives grows, always expecting others to do for us is diminishing.
Be happy! Do!
Most of us have a desire to be liked. It is common to hope that we make a good impression on others. Long, long time ago, I was told that you can please all of the people some of the time, and some of the people all the time, but we will never please all of the people all of the time. I’m sure you’ve heard that as well.
One of my favorite self-help speakers, the late Wayne Dyer, always said he lived his life, independent of the opinion of others. he also claimed that what others thought of him was none of his business.
We will never hear people that are busy following their dreams and doing the right thing criticize us, as they are too busy with their own life and agenda.
Those that find the time and the need to criticize us those that are doing nothing worthwhile themselves.
Our authenticity demands that we be true to ourselves, which means they will always be small minded people that will judge us. It doesn’t matter they don’t matter you have to be you.
“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” (Dr. Seuss)
If we do anything we should do it well.
Whether work at our paid job, personal projects, chores or helping friends there is no value in cutting corners and compromising quality.
In many cases, short cuts lead to having to do it again. We never really feel good about what we did. We secretly hope Mo one realizes how poorly we performed and we quietly envy those that do things well.
Poor performance is usually indicative of low self respect and apathy for life in general. Surprisingly though; doing our best boosts serotonin snd improves mood leading to the desire to share our accomplishments and do more.
Either way the effect is cascading.
We can rapidly improve the quality of our lives simply by doing a good job, or speed up the downward spiral into despair by continuing to cut corners.
If you’re going to do it, do it well!
All the anger and vitriol around us is generally due to a situation that certain people believe is an impediment to their happiness. Conditions out of synch with our world view can set us off. But if happiness is at the core and is the point, it’s a display of insanity to further aggravate oneself pushing us further and further from any chance of joy.
Examples: if you are late for work, an appointment or a meeting, would you stop? Stand still? Head the other way ?
Not if still want to make the appointment. You would rush a bit, or call and get the time moved, or something to ensure you could still have the intended outcome.
Not the other choices that guarantee the intention is blown.
Or; the plan is to clean a room. Would it make sense to dump garbage on the floor and empty all the drawers in the room onto the furniture while spilling grease on the carpet just because your child dropped a potato chip on the floor?
Of course not. You would just add the chip to you list of things to clean and your goal will still be possible.
When we immediately default to anger over diversion from our intentions, we ensure happiness will be out of reach.
There is never a real reason for anger when action is the answer.
Chill out and reevaluate before blowing up and blowing it !
Most development programs and self help organizations advocate the setting of goals. Most of us have dreams, desires, plans and intentions. These are all fantastic tools with which we should guide ourselves, determine direction and plan actions.
What we need to be wary of is the tenacity and zeal we employ.
While goals and dreams are the catalyst for growth and improvement, becoming dependent upon achieving them as our means to happiness and joy will limit us.
Happiness is independent of condition and external impact.
Once we have a strong need for ANYTHING, it has a stranglehold on us and controls our lives leaving us joyless.
Realize joy and contentment as we move toward our goals.
Use gratitude for the opportunity and ability to be creative, regardless of outcome and the joy will produce the desired result.
As soon as we move toward our goals while no longer NEEDING them, the process will be much less stressful.
There are many people these days that are under the impression that people, groups, agencies, governments, employers or family are supposed to ensure that their needs are met, bellies full, they are not insulted or offended, and they have easy lives!
WHERE AND WHEN DID THAT MEMO GO OUT? I must have missed it. Need to strat reading messenger more often I guess.
Here’s a bit of disappointing news!
FAKE NEWS!!
There is not another person, being, entity, or organization that has the responsibility of YOU!
No one is coming to save you. No big check is in the mail. Weight not suddenly dropping off. Broken shit around the house won’t HEAL. The trash you threw out of your moving car not crawling to the garbage can. Boss not giving promotions or raises to underperformers. Employers not calling people to come work for them. Opposing views don’t care how you feel.
Keep screaming for all this and you just get sicker, poorer, fatter and more angry.
NO JOY THERE.
Sure, family cares about and may want to see you do better, but they have to live their own lives. Yes there are agencies to help those with genuine need, but there must be rational reason for the inability to care for one’s self.
Here is the GREAT NEWS!!!!!
We all come into this life with the same potential. Opportunity is available to those that seek it, recognize it, and take advantage. Each person on this planet can be as rich as the richest, as fit as the fittest, as healthy as the healthiest, as well loved as the most considerate, selfless being there is and as popular as the most famous.
No holes are barred. You can do it.
THE BEST NEWS! When you DO take responsibility for yourself, and your actions and all results, the satisfaction and esteem you feel adds to your achievements and elevated your joy to the point of sublime.
ONLY YOU CAN DO FOR YOU.
Or Not. Your choice.
DO IT, or live a life of perpetual indignation waiting for service.
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