The events, situations, conditions, things, and people manifest in our experience according to our thoughts, feelings and vibrations associated with them.
All of our desires are only given to us when we feel confident in them appearing for us. (Our positive thought about something is our prayer)
Any condition of worry will never be thought of with JOY associated with it, so why do we get so many things we do not want?
1) If the concern about them is our dominant thought, overshadowing our joyful thoughts of the opposing condition, our vibration will be a match for the unwanted.
2) While thinking, dreaming, longing for a yet unmanifested reality, we naturally think of the opposing condition: IN does not exist without OUT, up needs down, and light/dark, so we tend to concentrate on either relief or deliverance from the unwanted. Even if we do so with joy, we are still giving the energy to the unwanted.
ONLY THINK ABOUT THE LIFE YOU WISH TO LIVE, TO LIVE THAT LIFE.