Most of us are who we were raised as. We live in the past and bring it with us into the future. In spite of desires to grown and change, the cultural norms and ancestral perspectives are the last ones we let go of. Many of these paradigms are religious beliefs and rituals. While following such schedules and calendars brings much familial togetherness and love, it may also serve to tether us to a version of ourselves that is not aligned with our highest good.
Manage well the swing between growth and culture. Wear ritual loose enough that it does not strangle.
Life will be what we make it.